Lt. Col. Brahmanand Avasthy - 1962 War Martyr

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Lieutenant-Colonel Brahmanand Avasthy

Name: Brahmanand Avasthy
Unit/Corps: 4 Rajput
Rank: Lieutanant Colonel
Service Nunber: IC-1070 
Born: 24 April year not available
Commissioned: not available
Recorded date of death: 21 November 1962

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Life and Fate: How the 1962 War tore a family

This is not a new story. This story is not one looking for sympathy or pity, as all of these days have been left far far behind. This is not a common story of the loss and desperation of a family but rather it is the story of a very brave woman's struggle with life and its vagaries, in face of a terrible calamity.

A very long long time ago, there lived two little princesses in a small mofussil town called Mhow. In those faraway days it was quiet, much quieter than now with small well-maintained houses, few cars that only the privileged owned. Life was absolutely idyllic. Nothing seemed amiss in the lives of these princesses who went to school, came back to adoring parents, played badminton and cycled in the evenings, had Vimto in the DSOI  (Defence Services Officers Institute), and then shared stories and hearty laughs on their dining table with their father and mother. Sundays were meant for family picnics and vacations meant long road trips to Saurashtra or to the family home in UP. The princesses had everything.

But someone, somewhere had other plans. "There are no fairy tales," he must have told himself when he saw this family's complete happiness. So, then came the 1962 War. The man of the house, the beloved father, the mainstay of the family, left a shell-shocked and young wife and two little lost girls within a matter of 48 hours. The days of hope and faith were shattered by bad news one day and the little ones were left fatherless in less than one month.

Overnight the queen turned into an outcast and her little princesses into little Cinderellas, except that they had no roof over their heads and no shoes to look forward to.

The wretched and real day found her and her two girls sitting on black boxes, painted with Mhow to ---- written on them, on the roadside. Rain was pelting down and the queen did not know where to take her luggage and her girls. The rain hid her tears from her girls as they mixed with each other on her soaked cheeks. A very kind-hearted and generous family, passing by, just took them home, piled her luggage in the verandah and looked after their broken souls and bodies, for a few weeks.

Back in those days, educated women were few and far between. Not many had attended a university and even lesser number had the distinction of having been tutored by luminaries like Harivansh Rai Bachchan. The queen looked for a place to hide herself and her little girls while she found a job to support them. But no help was forthcoming from any quarter. She enrolled herself for a post-graduate degree so that she could get a teaching job. Months passed on and not being able to tolerate the pain that her girls underwent and the regular barbs and taunts from the relatives where they had found temporary but very reluctant shelter, the queen placed her girls in a hostel, in another town.

Every weekend she would travel to see her beloved daughters: take one train that arrived at her destination at 1 pm. She would rush to the school and feed her girls some homemade aloo puri and rush back to the station to take her 3 pm train back to the place she called home for a few months. Since she could not afford a coolie, or a rickshaw or new flat-soled sandals, she trudged on her old high heels, painful remnants of her past life, to the school. Her feet were torn and hurt. They ached and pained from having had to walk miles...actually not walked but run... as she had a train to take back. Her back hurt from having to toil over books. She burned the midnight oil quite literally to get her MA degree. By the end of it, she had spectacles.

But adversity brought out the best in her. Over the years, she carved out a place for herself. Her daughters studied in a very well-known, expensive boarding school.

She braved it. She became strong. After all she was a queen, the wife of an Army officer, who had laid down his life for the country. She got a job of a lecturer in a government college and in her paltry salary of few hundreds, proceeded to bring up her girls single-handedly. The girls went from strength to strength. They did well at studies and were aware of the sacrifices that their mother was making for them. They participated in extra-curricular activities and shone in them all. The older one was better at music. She won several awards which made her mother proud.

Then, like all growing girls, the older princess found her prince charming ... alas, he too was in the Army. The Mother did not bat an eyelid and did not once say that she had her reservations because another loss of a loved one was too much to think of. But she killed her fears and married her girl off with great pomp and splendour. There were elephants and horses to welcome the baraat and the town talked of the wedding for months.

The younger princess qualified to be a doctor and the brave mother ran from pillar to post to secure a good scholarship as financially it was a daunting task. But she managed it somehow. Today that little one is a very successful doctor in the US.

The older girl grew up to be an Army wife....once again thrown into the same life style as her father's time. The happy couple moved from place to place, following the drum. And like all growing young people, they had two lovely children who needed grandmotherly attention every now and then. Once the couple had to go abroad as the young officer had qualified for a Staff College assignment. The queen volunteered to take care of the very young children single-handedly so that her daughter could accompany the husband abroad. She stayed awake through the nights, tutored the young kids, went to work every day and toiled endlessly, selflessly.

At every step, her support became invaluable. She brought up her grandson as it was not possible to send a young boy to small places where no schooling was possible. The princess travelled up the ladder as her husband did well in life. From a little lost girl, with two frocks and torn shoes, she became part of the senior lot in the hierarchy.

From a small rented room where she slept on the floor, the princess moved to large mansions with several bedrooms and several people to take care of her comforts. Her mother began to live with her and provide a home to her. Life was just too busy to ever be at home and to look after it properly. At every step, it was the mother who stood by her daughter. Her graciousness and elegance became legendary in the regiment as also in the Army elsewhere. She was spoken of as all. A woman loved, for her substance. She became an author and a poetess, having published two books and several magazines and TV channels covered her brave journey. She moved with the Page 3 circuit.

When she passed away, her bier bore a wreath from the Chief of Army Staff himself. Her life was celebrated and feted by a host of well-known people. For us, it was a proud moment.

It was a long road from penury and widowhood. But she made it with tenacity, grace and a large heartedness. The soldier would have been proud of her.

I should know. I am her daughter: the elder of the princesses.

I am Neeharika Naidu, wife of Lt Gen. Milan Naidu, PVSM, AVSM, YSM,ADC, former Vice-Chief of Army Staff.

She was Sushila Avasthy, the queen, wife of Lt Col Brahmanand Avasthy, Commanding Officer, 4 Rajput, killed in action in 1962.

This brings us to a question. Should people who have lost their reason to survive be made to grovel and beg for their rightful place under the sun? Should not have those, for whom my father gave his life, stood with us and helped us to live a life of dignity, respect and comfort just like they were? Was it his fault or ours that today those years of 1962 onwards are a memory that I dare not invoke without inviting a sense of deep pain and ignominy? Can someone answer me? Anyone?

The powers that be, the people that are, or those who were. Can anybody give me back some vestige of what we lost? Why is it that his bravery and that of those who fought and fell with him were not recognised as of those in the more recent wars? No roads are named after them, no songs in their praise and certainly no government organisation, school and colleges hold remembrance ceremonies. No petrol pumps and special bounties were handed down to their families. Why? Were they nobodies, just cannon fodder?

Now, tell me honestly, can anyone imagine a better tale?

Neeharika Avasthy Naidu went to the prestigious Scindia Kanya Vidyalaya in Gwalior. She did her post-graduation in English Literature. A professional vocal artiste, accredited to Doordarshan and AIR, she has travelled the world performing. Recording artist for leading recording companies. Managing Editor of añ International Magazine. Have been the Director of a Conference Management company. Wife of a  former Vice Chief of Army Staff, has supervised social work of the Army.

© Neeharika Naidu 2018


Front: left, Aradhana Bela Avasthy (Sood), right, Neeharika Avasthy (Naidu), daughters.
Back: left, Sushila Avasthy (wife), right, Lt. Col. Brahmanand Avasthy.
23 October 1962, Mhow, MP. Just before Lt. Col. Avasthy left home to go the war front



Contributions from friends and colleagues




A lady of fortitude and courage . Army needs to a do lot more than what they are doing at present Written in a very compelling style. I liked the narrative immensely. So simple yet so full of emotions .

It is true that the martyrs of 1962 war were left unrecognised Their families were not extended the same support as families of subsequent wars. There may be many reasons. Firstly Nehru never planned for dealing with the results of war. His defense minister and army brass were equally clueless Further india was collectively smarting under the humiliation of defeat and were ill prepared to deal with it Whatever the reason it was no way to treat our brave soldiers who had lost their lives and were no less brave than soldiers in later battles This really means that our army top brass owes it to the nation to fight for the rights of their troops and get them the best possible terms Very often more than the politicians who are largely ill informed the bureaucrats are the ones who put maximum hurdles in the path of better conditions for the army They are wily and cunning and have to be countered with similar tactics.

Poignant narration

Painful story. All sympathies to the family. Brickbats to the armed forces, the Defence Mimister, the Prime Mimister. Odd that they did not award a pension adequate for living without begging. Was this story common all throug the years , since 1947?


very touching story. I remember a friend of mine in college also become a martyr in 1962 war. We were together in UOTC (I think that is how it was called before it became NCC). After graduation he joined army.

It's truly sad (for the bad treatment) and inspiring (family resilience) to read this. In the 1962 War, the highest ranking officer killed was Brigadier Hoshiar Singh. And there were five Lt. Cols, including Mr. Avasthy. If his family suffered in this way, I hate to think of what happened to the lower ranking soldiers' families.

Very moving. Thanks for sharing.

Incredible story. Thanks for sharing.

Poignant and evocative. Fascinating and heartfelt, in equal proportions.

A touching story which ended happily thanks to the tenacity of the Colonel's wife. India's Defence Ministry must be blamed for treating this family so badly.

This is a good way to highlight the plight of those who lose their loved ones in wars.

A very touching narrative. Sadly, our system does not take care of such war heroes and their families. The people who matter are too busy preparing for the 'next election'.

A daughter pays tribute to her mother and her struggle to raise two young daughters. I sympathize with her and her mother. As a nation India could do better for her fallen heroes. With due respect, I am not sure the language of hyperbole is appropriate i.e. 'queen' and 'princess'. I write as the younger brother of a soldier(captain) who enlisted after 1962 war. For years, I have taken responsibility for helping his children grow up and settle. That is life!

A great story of grit, determination and sacrifice, putting into pale politicians and institutions that could not rise to the situation to provide help and solace so well-deserved.

Its a compelling story.Having been in defence services and moved all over India life no doubt was difficult. Before Rajiv Gandhi and pre internet dAY sanction of pension used to take time all over military as well as civil, It was during Ragive G days orders were issued to sanction pension before retiremnt etc. Pays were low, But we must also remeber India was looted for 800 years by foreigners ,British days no facilities to natives were still there. Things have improved quite a lot since then with 5 pay commissions etc. we have to blame ourelders for not defencing the country and be independent

A heart-rending narration by a daughter of a brave Martyr. Sushila Aunty the 'Queen' was a great Lady very affectionate and brave. Her life was full of struggle and sacrifice. I totally agree with Princess that the Nation did little to give succour to the Veer Naris of 1962 Sino - India War as for 10 years they did not even get Pension as Liberalised Family Pension was introduced in 1972. Most of the surviving Veer Naris of 1962 War are octogenarian living at mercy of relatives. The Nation should reach out to them and give them an honourable recognition and old age grant as recognition of the supreme sacrifice of their Martyred husband.

Thank you for this story which shows the inherent resilience of the families of our soldiers (be they officers or jawans) - something that we don't always recognise. This particular story reminds me of the time when in 1955 when as a student of inter (which class 11 and 12 at that time were called) at the Kamla Raja Girls' College in Gwalior I joined the first batch of girls's NCC. It was an interesting experience as we became the centre of curious attention as we went around in our trucks wearing khaki NCC uniforms sporting red berets with plumes. The locals would ask 'Yeh maurhe hain ki maurhi hain?' (The word maurha referred to a male child.) At that time in the boys' wing there was a young cadet called Avasthi who had risen to be an Under Officer. We looked up to him with admiration as he was well mannered and considerate. For some reason the photograph in the story reminds of that young man. Of course, I have no reason to believe that this gallant Avasthi could have been that young promising cadet.

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